Source material from the Internet Advice Lady here.
As God is my witness, I swear I thought turkeys could fly:
1) Note to Mr. Smith: BREAK OFF THE WEDDING! This marriage will NOT end well!
2) Paranoid? No. Sensible, smart, possessing basic sense? Yes (except for feeling need to write Prudie...)
3) While "emotional distance from patients" technically only applies to doctors, it's safer for you too.
4) Tell gun nut uncle to check firearm at door. Otherwise, call cops, report armed lunatic.Does uncle have daughter? He'll bring shotgun to wedding!